@Misty it's not an easy issue. I think in order to not be divided you have to want to understand the concerns of people who have different situations than you. Sounds like you do. If a person doesn't have a desire, and some empathetic ability, they retreat. Some people have empathy and some don't. But we all are capable of change if we allow it.
When justice is not served, extreme situations need extreme measures. We have to recognize that a movement is complex and becomes political. Don't fall into the trap of identifying a movement with extreme elements who try to co-opt it. There are problems on both sides. We have to look at ourselves as a society and not blame the products of our system. We have created this situation. White people first need to admit they will never understand what it is really like to be black in America. We can look, listen, and learn, but we will never truly understand. That's where you need to start from. That should not divide. It should allow us all to open our minds to a different reality.
Black people are treated differently by police. That is a fact born out by our eyes, and the stats. Imagine being afraid to be pulled over if you have a tail light out. Not afraid of being arrested, or even physically abused. But afraid for your life. Afraid you won't make it home to your family. That is the reality for every black person in America. Whether they are a US Marine, a priest or a supreme court judge.
It's understandable that fear like that decade after decade after decade eventually needs to be addressed.
It's hard to admit that what we really have to do is end poverty, increase education, increase personal responsibility, and provide healthcare for all, including a comprehensive mental health component.